Dan Bergfeld died peacefully at home in Vero Beach after a long battle with cancer. He never complained, and the genuine smile that lit up his face reflected his lifelong gratitude for a good life, well lived, with people he loved and who loved him. Dan will be remembered for his warmth, his welcoming smile and white fluffy hair, his kindness and thoughtfulness for others, his wit, his embodiment of love.
He was born in Bronxville NY, but lived most of his life in Stamford and New Canaan Ct, until he and his wife, Holly, moved to Vero Beach fulltime in 2018. He was educated at New Canaan Country School and Milton Academy, and received a BA from Yale College in 1965, where he was proud to sing T1 with the Whiffenpoofs; he later received his MBA from the Stephens Institute of Technology.
His career in NYC was in management consulting and operations analysis for NYC government during Mayor Lindsey’s administration. But his real life passion was music, and his tenor voice gifted quartets, choral groups, Whiffalumni benefit concerts, and church choirs in NYC, CT and FL. He relished concert tours with the Greenwich Choral Society and the Yale Alumni Chorus in Russia, China, Cuba, Bulgaria, France, Italy and Greece. If not singing, Dan could be found on a tennis court in men’s and mixed doubles. Or in the workshop at Silvermine Arts Center (New Canaan CT) where, as a juried member, he’d create large sculptures to move in the wind, as evidence of the invisible Great Spirit. Raised in the Quaker tradition, he has been a member of the First Presbyterian Church and choir (New Canaan) for much of his adult life, but he drew his faith from many traditions, particularly the Lakota Sioux: “Make me always ready to come to you with clean hands and straight eyes. So when life fades, as the fading sunset, my spirit may come to you without shame.”
He is survived by his wife, Holly Adams, the love of his life, and Phoebe, their 21-mo old mini Labradoodle; step-children Lisa (Pope) Ward, Andrew Regier, and Abby Regier (Burton Fletcher) and grandsons Tucker, Chris, Briley and William; brother-in-law John Adams (Melissa), sisters Lisa Bergfeld Soleau and Kristin Bergfeld, and nephews Jason and Tyler Soleau. He was pre-deceased by his mother, Tina Mansfield, his father Albert Bergfeld, and his stepfather Walter Mansfield.
Contributions in his name may be made to a musical organization of your choice, or to his favorites: Greenwich Choral Society (Greenwich CT), Vero Beach Choral Society (FL), Sea Oaks Chorus (FL).
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