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Jay Edward Barry

March 12, 1956 ~ September 10, 2022

Jay was born March 12, 1956, in Watertown, NY to Edward H. Barry and Shirley C. Alger.

Jay graduated from Watertown High School in 1974 and from Clarkson University with a BS in Civil Engineering (1978) and a Masters in Structural Engineering (1979). Jay’s thesis on Deep Beam Analysis was later published and has been referred to for years to come in structural and civil engineering journals. He earned the Professional Engineer (PE) certification, the engineering profession’s highest standard of competence.

The Boeing Commercial Airplane Company recruited Jay from college. Once his graduate thesis was complete, he began his 37-year career in the Pacific Northwest with Boeing. When Jay retired he held the position of Chief Engineer, Structures and Systems, Propulsion Systems Division. Jay was well known at work for his integrity, his leadership skills and his engineering expertise. He traveled to many continents on behalf of Boeing and made many friends along the way.

Jay married the love of his life, Lisa Cook, in 1980. This past August they celebrated 42 years of marriage. Jay often joked that they knew each other their entire life as Jay and Lisa were born in the same hospital two days apart. Jay and Lisa forged a wonderful life together built on their love. The pinnacle for them was raising their beautiful daughter, Sarah, their pride and joy.
After retiring in 2014, Jay and Lisa moved to Vero Beach, FL where they had enjoyed a vacation home for many years prior.

Jay was a true Renaissance Man. He developed many interests and skills throughout his life, mastering many. To name a few: playing guitar; ukulele; artistry in drawing; star gazing; wine connoisseur; microbrewer (before it was a thing) and pit master smoker. Jay loved to cook. He found great joy making dishes from many different cuisines. His bread baking skills are legendary among friends and family.

Living in the greater Seattle area, he enjoyed many adventures hiking the trails in and around Mount Rainier and the Cascade Range. He was also an avid golfer.

Jay was happiest spending time with his family. Involving his grandchildren in many of his passions has perpetuated a wonderful legacy.

Jay died peacefully at home under the care of Hospice of The Treasure Coast surrounded by his loving family.

Jay is survived by his loving wife, Lisa, of Vero Beach, Fl, his Daughter Sarah Bellamy, Son in law Jeffrey Bellamy and two grandchildren Mason Bellamy and Sophia Bellamy, all of Issaquah, WA. Two Brothers; Gerard “Huck” Barry (Jan), of Watertown, NY, Joseph Barry (Sherry Brown), of Land O Lakes, FL. One sister, Judith Northrop (John), of Watertown, NY. A Sister-in-Law, Linda Barry, of St. Augustine, FL.
Five Brothers-in-Law John Cook (Cindy) of Black River, NY, Joseph Cook of Danbury, CT, Frank Cook (Nicole), Peter Cook (Barb) and Andrew Cook (Katrina), all of Gouverneur, NY. Two Sister’s-in-Law, Martha Cook Howard, of Vancouver, WA, and Julie Cook Wainwright (Vernon) of Gouverneur, NY. Many nieces, nephews, and cousins.

Jay was predeceased by his parents Edward H. Barry, Shirley Campbell Alger, and his stepfather, Martin Alger Sr., as well as two brothers John Barry (infant) and James G. Barry; father and mother-in-law, John Cook and Mary M. Cook.

Jay’s family would like to thank all of the wonderful doctors and staff whose compassion and care carried him with unending hope as he battled small cell neuroendocrine cancer for four years. Dr, William McGarry, Dr, Robin Atwall, Dr. John Petersen, Dr. Curtis Dalili all of Vero Beach. Dr. Chatwal and staff at Moffitt Cancer Center, Tampa, FL and Dr. Zurita and Dr. Sidiqui at MD Anderson, Houston, TX. And finally, the caring staff at VNA of Vero Beach and Hospice of The Treasure Coast.

In lieu of flowers contributions may be made to the “Jay Edward Barry Memorial Scholarship Fund” c/o Northern New York Community Foundation, 131 Washington St., Watertown, NY 13601. An annual scholarship has been established for a WHS Graduate attending Clarkson University. Donations may be made online at

Friends that would like to share a fond memory of Jay or leave condolences for his family may sign an online guestbook at Arrangements are under the direction and care of Millennium Cremation Service of Vero Beach.


Lisa Barry

September 12, 2022, 8:36 pm

A funeral mass will be on September 19, 2022 at 11:00 a.m. at St. John of the Cross Catholic Church, Vero Beach, FL. A Celebration of Life and Eulogy will immediately follow in the Parish Hall.

Gloria Lawler Corey.

September 12, 2022, 11:53 pm

My deepest condolences to you Lisa and your family. I was very sad to read this. Sending many prayers and lots of love to you and family. ❤️

Ron Bellamy

September 12, 2022, 11:58 pm

Jay was such an awesome guy and a magical addition to our extended family. During his illness his presence was so missed and will be always but his memory truly lives on in my thoughts. It was such a blessing to have him with us.

Cate Fluno Eisenschmidt

September 13, 2022, 12:08 am

Lisa, I am so very sorry to hear this news. Wishing you warm memories to fill the empty spaces ❤️

Reda Pamela

September 13, 2022, 12:08 am

Lisa, I am heartbroken over your tremendous loss. Jay was such a great guy – brilliant, funny, and compassionate. Someone we can all always be proud of, and love forever. I’m sending my love to you Sarah, and all of the Cooks. May our dear Lord hold Jay gently in His powerful embrace. Love always, Pam

Judith B Northrop

September 13, 2022, 12:34 am

❤️❤️❤️. My best friend and wonderful brother. Will be missed beyond words. Love you.

Barbara Gould

September 13, 2022, 1:15 am

Lisa, so very sorry for the passing of your dear husband. What a beautiful tribute to his life. Although I didn’t know Jay, it sounds like he enjoyed a wonderful life with you and his family. Keep your fondest memories close to your heart. May this, your faith, and the love of family and friends sustain you during this most difficult time.

Carolyn Davis

September 13, 2022, 1:16 am

Oh, Lisa, so sorry to read of Jay’s passing. We always had so much fun getting together with your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. God Bless.

Pamela Weaver

September 13, 2022, 1:34 am

Lisa I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Martha Cook Howard

September 13, 2022, 2:39 am

This fine human being has gone far too soon! May God rest his loving soul. ❤️

David Northrop

September 13, 2022, 3:09 am

Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss. It’s a tremendously bad feeling I know all to well. The pain never seems to go away…..Stay strong, as I know you will…that will help you with your grief. A big hug to you from me, and remember, one day at a time…

Silvia Alvarez

September 13, 2022, 3:17 am

I am so sad hearing about Jay’s passing.
Prayers and hugs to you, Sara and grandkids. Love you

Ed “Duff” Duffy

September 13, 2022, 3:18 am

I knew Jay when we were kids back in Watertown. It’s awesome to read he lived a tremendous, fulfilling life. Sincere condolences to his entire family. Peace to all.

Mary Jo Fleury

September 13, 2022, 3:53 am

Lisa, I’m very saddened to hear of Jay’s passing. Sending you and your family my love and prayers to help you through this very difficult time!

Karen Seguin

September 13, 2022, 5:08 am

Lisa my sincere condolences at the loss of the love of your life. May you find comfort in your memories. I didn’t know Jay well at all but knowing you I am sure you spent many a time laughing together! Always your dear friend, Karen

Vince Battista

September 13, 2022, 11:17 am

Jay, you were a great friend and neighbor growing up in Watertown NY. You and your wonderful family on Flower Ave made my life the best as we grew up together. What a great life, family and career you had. You will be missed beyond words. I love you brother.
Vince Battista

Jeannine Hammersley

September 13, 2022, 11:30 am

Lisa so very sorry to hear About Jay. The mention of Jays name always brought a smile to my face. He was a fun loving guy . I know he will be truly missed by all those who were fortunate enough to have known him. You were very blessed to have had such a wonderful husband . May you and your family find peace at this difficult time. Thoughts and prayers , Jeannine and John

Gary & Suely Staggs

September 13, 2022, 11:46 am

Someone who shared so much of life with you will forever be a part of you. Keeping you in our prayers as we all remember Jay.

mary fults

September 13, 2022, 11:53 am

judy and family i’m so sorry to hear of your brothers passing,,thinking of you ..hugs judy

Mark Robbins

September 13, 2022, 12:13 pm

Lisa, my condolences to you and your family. You are in my prayers. May the peace of Christ be in your hearts in this time of sorrow.

Mary Anne Darling Wasilewski

September 13, 2022, 1:01 pm

Jay was a wonderfully loving man with whom I shared a birthday. May you carry all of the beautiful memories of the great life and love you shared together. My thoughts, love and prayers are with you Lisa and your family! A beautiful tribute to Jay ❤️.

Brian Douglas

September 13, 2022, 1:29 pm

Christine and I offer our sincere condolences to you during this difficult time. Jay was a prominent presence in the Woodfield Community and will be missed.

Stephanie and Kelley Campbell

September 13, 2022, 2:21 pm

Dear Lisa,

Our hearts are broken over Jay’s passing. We so enjoyed spending time with you both at the family gatherings over the past few years. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Steffi and Kelley

Joan Lawler

September 14, 2022, 12:31 am

Very sad to hear of Jay’s passing-seems like yesterday we gathered together in Cleveland! What a beautiful tribute, great accomplishments & a full life; yet gone too soon! May your memories keep you smiling, give you strength to get thru this difficult time! Condolences to you & your family ❤️ Will keep you in my thoughts & prayers!

Bob Kelvie

September 14, 2022, 12:34 am

Huck, Judy, and Joe. Thinking of you and my heart is saddened by Jay leaving so soon! What an accomplished life , well lived, and taught us to never waste a minute of it. Love you all.

Lucas Wainwright

September 14, 2022, 2:15 am

My deepest condolence to Lisa and Sarah and family Jay was a great man caring husband caring father caring family member he will be missed by many

Cathy and Ken Leon

September 14, 2022, 3:33 am

Judy, Huck and family. So sorry to read of your brother’s passing. What a wonderful legacy he leaves. Our thoughts are with you at this sad time. Cathy and Ken Leon

Gary M Lavorgna

September 14, 2022, 1:09 pm

Dear Lisa and family. My condolence to you at this difficult time. I did not know Jay all that well but when we did play together, we always managed to talk some “shop” about engineering and the sciences. He was a very friendly and bright man. Our conversations were always enjoyable and enlightening.

Pat Caguiat

September 14, 2022, 2:00 pm

Lisa, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my prayers.
Regards, Pat

Mark & Laurie Burgess

September 14, 2022, 4:50 pm

Lisa, Sarah, and all who loved Jay
We are very sorry and sad for your loss. We hope and pray God touches your heart with kindness, and over time, your sorrow is replaced by only warm and happy memories.
Although our pain is small in comparison, we are also sad for ourselves as well in that we have lost a dear friend. Since we received the news, our thoughts have been dominated by sorrow. We find ourselves sitting, reminiscing about times past when a smile will break out followed by: “Do you remember when Jay…” Then we share one of our many, many Jay stories and laugh. Anyone who knew Jay knows what a kind and funny man he was and how much happiness he brought into everyone’s lives. His sense of humor could be both very subtle and blunt. We will deeply miss our good friend.
Jay was truly a good friend, a wise and funny confidant that will be missed forever. There are empty places in our hearts that we fear will remain the rest of our lives. Although Jay has passed, we consider ourselves bless to have had him in our lives.
Mark and Laurie

Maureen Nolan

September 15, 2022, 5:37 pm

Judy & Huck… My sincere condolences to you and your family. You & your family are in my thoughts & prayers. Sincerely… Maureen Nolan

Michelle Shults Johnson

September 16, 2022, 6:53 am

Lisa, I am so sorry for your loss. I will hold you and your family tight in prayer.

Michelle Shults Johnson

Michelle Shults Johnson

September 16, 2022, 6:58 am

Lisa, I am so sorry. Jay had a wonderful life and impacted so many. I will hold you and family in my thoughts and prayers.

Juanita Duffany

September 16, 2022, 12:49 pm

I am so sorry for your loss of your lifelong friend. Hugs and prayers for comfort in loving memories.
Steve and Juanita Duffany

Ron Johnson

October 13, 2022, 8:27 pm

My condolences to both Lisa and Sarah. Jay was a great mentor to me at Boeing and a fun friend for many adventures. His infamous “whodee-whooo” bear warning call still brings a smile to my face. It’s unfortunate that you forget how much you miss someone until their gone…

Suz Miller

October 14, 2022, 10:37 am

My condolences to you and your family. I worked with Jay at Boeing. His knowledge and passion for mentoring engineers, especially when it came to airplane safety was remarkable. Jay always had great stories to share; from work to sausage making, and grandkids! I will always remember his laugh when he told his stories. He will be missed but always in our hearts.

Jeff Englander

February 15, 2024, 1:52 pm

Just coming here now after reading about Jay’s passing in the latest Clarkson President’s Report. I am so saddened to hear about this. Jay was my closest friend at Clarkson and we shared a house with two others in our junior and senior years. Saw him once after graduation when my wife & I visited Seattle and he met us for dinner. Unfortunately with our distance and the passage of time I never got to connect with him again, but I still feel a terrible loss. My deepest condolences.

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